People struggle with a great sense of loss during the holiday season. It is a time of year when those memories of romance past can haunt us with a heavy sorrow. It is not an easy feeling to have, and all of us have been there at one point or another in our lives. There are some things you can do however, to lighten the load of heaviness on your heart and begin the process of healing. First and foremost, be realistic with yourself. How long has the person been out of your life? Has it been three, five or ten years and you're still waiting for the person to come back? You would be surprised at the amount of people who consult psychics, and ask when the ex will come back. When asked how long they have been apart, you find out that it has been a decade or more. If your former partner has been out of your life that long, chances are they have moved on with their lives. It is not always an easy pill to swallow, but sometimes we just have to be strong and completely honest with ourselves. It is the same if the person has gone off and gotten remarried or has another significant partner in their lives. Sometimes, we just have to let go. Strong feelings of love are difficult to release. But sometimes we must break away from the past and move onward into the future.
We must also be realistic and ask ourselves if the relationship that we want back has been particularly tumultuous in the past? Has the person cheated, lied or betrayed you, would you really want that person back into your life? If the person was hot tempered and arguments always ensued, would you want to go through that kind of lifestyle again? Maybe the person was distant and cold, and you always found yourself begging for their affection. Would you want to go back to doing that all over again? We don't always realize that to have our estranged lover back would also bring back all of the old problems. Sometimes a second chance is also a second chance at experiencing heartbreak all over again. So don't hold yourself prisoner in the past this holiday season. Open the door and allow yourself to go free. The angels can help you to heal and move forward if you'll just commune with them through meditation and prayer. They are your constant friends and companions, and you can talk to them as if you would a trusted friend or family member. Everyone deserves to love and to be loved. We cannot experience these things if we are stubbornly holding on to something that we can no longer have. Don't let the ego keep you chained to your broken heart. It will keep you in mourning and struggling with feelings of rejection for many years if you let it. Open yourself up to receive guidance from heaven and your own higher self. If you will do this, you will heal and find love again. The best days are ahead of you, not buried in the murky depths of a broken past.