There seems to be a myth circulating around the globe about the law of attraction. The myth is, that if you are responsible for how other people treat you by what you think. The idea is, that if you fear abandonment you will continue to attract the kind of people who will eventually turn their back on you. If you fear being cheated on, you will always attract those individuals who will be unfaithful in a relationship. The problem with this theory, is that it makes you solely responsible for other people's actions. If people are not treating you well, then it is not their fault, it is because of you and something you have done wrong by thinking badly. This is a wonderful way to make people feel even more horrendous about themselves when they already feel unloved or wounded by someone's unthoughtful actions.
Have you ever noticed, all the people around you who are praying for some toxic person to change their miserable lives? Have you ever noticed how many people are doing affirmations or visualizations to try and attract the perfect mate, yet all they get our monsters? As a psychic adviser, I probably get hundreds of calls in a month, from people who say that they have been praying or practicing the law of attraction and a positive attitude for years. Yet, their soulmate has not shown up yet and all they seem to attract are the users and abusers. They always ask, sounding very dejected, " what am I doing wrong? " The answer to that question is, honestly, nothing at all.
You are not responsible for other people's actions. As much as some guru would like us to all think that our relationships have gone awry, and our friends are a bunch of users, and the governments are crooked and the terrorists are killing innocent people because our thoughts are just not positive and loving enough; the real answer to these problems is that people have free will. And they are free to act and treat others as badly or as wonderfully as they choose. And you and I are not responsible for what others do or do not in any way, even if sometimes we sit in the privacy of our own homes thinking that the world is going to hell in a handbasket. If the world is going to hell in a handbasket, and we are feeling unloved or unappreciated because someone did us wrong; it is because other people have chosen to put the world in that handbasket, or decided to do something that made us feel unloved or unappreciated.
So don't beat yourself up over other people's actions. It is not your fault that they act the way they do. There is enough for all of us to worry about in a day, we don't need to think that our friendships fell apart or our spouse cheated on us or there are wars raging in the Middle East because we are not thinking correctly. This is pure nonsense and no one should ever subscribe to such ridiculous jargon.